Here’s what this third-trimester pregnant momma of 6 (soon to be 7) uses to keep us all happy, healthy, and empowered to take on the sun, late nights, and outdoors!
Here’s what this third-trimester pregnant momma of 6 (soon to be 7) uses to keep us all happy, healthy, and empowered to take on the sun, late nights, and outdoors!
So a promise that I cling (and I MEAN CLING) to is Galatians 6:9!!
This was a WORD to me at a women’s retreat and come to find out a BIBLICAL PROMISE! I received it on an evening when I was really struggling with motherhood and I only had a few kids at that point! I was just a mom in church. I hadn’t added anything else on to my plate (I don’t think) and was full-time mommin! Even then just full-time momming, it was HARD. I had (have) super strong willed babes all under the age of 4. BUT I thank Jesus for that constantly because I know if I can find their bend and teach them JESUS they will be super effective in the KINGDOM and mighty warriors FOR Christ and IMMOVABLE!!!
Well I have added quite a few ministries (Nursery and MOMTOURAGE), a few more kids, activities, homeschooling (like legit HAVE to teach them now), and a couple SMALL BUSINESSES!! I LOVE love LOVE everything I do and at this moment I fell completely called to ALL of it!
BUT last night it hit me-I am feeling a little weary! Not in my business or ministries (when I get there) BUT the mommin’ part leading up to it! My children are being a tad bit rebellious and difficult (truthfully A LOT) and I am not seeing much fruit. It has been a difficult parenting year and we are working on reclaiming the ground we lost, albeit very slowly and sometimes un-confidently. Also, it has also been super busy for us lately with holidays, Vow Renewal, renovations, and Family Pictures on top of our daily to-do list and getting children anywhere can be tough!
Weariness is coming out of me in the form of unkind loudness, yelling, hurried-ness, tired-ness, and other unflattering ways! Last night it hit me, I am not doing my part of the promise. SO I HAVE to make a change. This past weekend I took off! It felt fantastic. WE all did a Family Game Night. We worked together to get some projects accomplished. We ate and relaxed and connected. I NEED more of that right now and TIS THE SEASON.
So I am cutting back where I can, cause let’s be real……I run my business and support my people MOSTLY on social media and my Facebook limitations didn’t last but a handful of days AND it’s been a BIG sale weekend! AND I love stewarding my people, it gives me LIFE and energizes me!
So realistic WORK HOURS start tomorrow ! This morning I decided to cut our MOMTOURAGE semester short a couple meetings. I am using the volunteers God has given me and leaning on their servant heart’s in my Nursery schedule. Our Wednesday night Bible study doesn’t start back up until January. And I have more curriculum coming for the kids that makes them MORE ACCOUNTABLE by tangibly showing them what they are (or aren’t) accomplishing. And Friday will conclude my oily schedule!
Boundaries are good! My calendar is still quite full BUT it is Christmas Programs and FUN stuff I get to do WITH my hubby and KIDS! I am saying YES to things I would normally say NO to, and NO to things I would normally say YES to!
Everything has a season (and thankfully a season doesn’t have a set time limit), and this is what this SEASON will look like for me….
I’m watch more Christmas movies, bake more, drink more cider and hot tea, use my crockpots MORE, spend more time in my kitchen, enjoy the still and quite (I am a mover so this could be difficult)!I am going to diffuse all the Christmas-y and winter-y oils! I am going to USE my oils in prayer and Bible Study and on my children and use them even more intentionally and not as a last resort! AND make time with GOD my FIRST priority! I’m gonna start a prayer journal-like a real one not just scribbles in margins. I am going to speak softer INTENTIONALLY and maybe put a rubberband on my wrist to snap when I get loud!
I am going to be the change I would like to see in my family. I am going to not be to busy doing stuff for God that I don’t spend time with God, not that I’ve ever done that! 😂😂
“It’s the most wonderful time of the year. It’s the hap-happiest season of all.”—-UMMMMM NOT so much!
So it’s been a WILD, BUSY ride lately! It’s been loud, not very nice, messy, and wedges and walls have been the result. Not to mention (but I am) some super bad attitudes and relationship strains!
So I DESPERATELY need a RESET BUTTON. You know like in electronics when things are wonky, you just preset the reset button and it all loads back up and is RIGHT again!!! SOOOOO that’s what I am doing! I am pressing the reset button!
I removed social media from my phone, unplugged the tv, set work hours with the computer, ordered some new curriculum, did a chalkboard wall, set goals for us all, came up with a different way to handle some less than stellar behaviors, wrote down SO SO SO many Bible verses , filled ALL the diffusers, paired some oils with prayers, made all my OILS ACCESSIBLE and am going to once again be INTENTIONAL about connecting with the hearts of my family. LIKE EVEN THE DOGS!
I mean THIS is THE time of the year for FAMILY but it ALWAYS seems to be the one that is the hardest! Do you ever feel like the things that are suppose to be about family and bring you closer ACTUALLY end up as a catalyst for an argument which can pull you apart?
Family Pictures– I yelled for about 2 hours while trying to figure out WHERE they hid their clothes and what color we were going to coordinate! But PRAISE JESUS the fighting didn’t last and the actual pictures and the end result were super fun!
OUR 10 YEAR ANNIVERSARY AND VOW RENEWAL– I had this grand idea of spending the day with my girls and pampering and fun going on, while the boys hung out and bonded and met us at the church. WELL THAT DID NOT HAPPEN! It was a DAY! I don’t even wanna throw an adjective in front of it, because yup, it was THAT BAD! But we made to the church, and Jesus and our friends, who have become family, settled, primped, and brought us back to L O V E!! And y’all this picture is my FAVORITE ever! And I haven’t even gotten the pics from our amazing photographer yet, so be expecting a WHOLE post of pics!!
Then there is Holiday Prep– I KEEP finding my stuff broken and a mess!! And this amazing time of the year that they MAKE FAMILY MOVIES ABOUT usually makes me NOT like my family!
So y’all I am throwing my expectations OUT, going to make myself connect and enjoy my children and the Holidays, slathering on StressAway, putting Joy on my liver and diffusing Christmas Spirit and I am starting TODAY!! Anyone else need to press the RESET BUTTON? If you decided to for any amount of time then let me know!
Praying for all us mommas and our families and that we would TRULY enjoy this magically time of the year!
I have been fighting writing this post. I thought maybe a Facebook post would suffice BUT I keep feeling a nudge. SO here we go…..
THIS YEAR HAS BEEN HARD! Have you had one of those? Maybe not this year, maybe it’s a year you’ve overcome but remember in vivid detail sometimes.
Funny thing about my hard time was that aside from a few moments that crumbled me and left me on the floor in the dark with my phone turned off for a few days, I could do my day to day with confidence and purpose. BUT then the end came and it wasn’t what I thought it would be! I didn’t feel like I thought it would. I thought it would free me to get back to myself, but it has only driven me further away. I think in the throws of it, I didn’t allow myself to feel it, BUT NOW I can’t seem to escape it. ALL the things I couldn’t feel before now rush over in waves.
I pray that makes sense. I just feel like I am struggling in life, trying to get back to who I know I am and my purpose but FEAR! Perfect love cast out fear (1 John 4:18), His Word says it’s true and I am trying to get there!
This past week was difficult, especially when all you can articulate to the ones you love is “I’m struggling. I just can’t shake it.” Did you know people that love you wanna help fix things and it frustrates both of you when you don’t know how to fix it.
WELL there is H O P E. His name is Jesus. What I thought was a mistake on my part by overbooking myself, God worked out to His glory (like always) and used it to start bringing me out of this funk!
God has brought me the MOST amazing people through an ESSENTIAL OIL company! He really can use anything! StressAway calmed my “cray”and I happened into an accidental business. A “business’ that has brought me over 300 people I didn’t know a couple years ago and turned them into family! So thankful!!!
A sweet, new friend asked me how I was! I overshared! I felt safe and released to. She listened. She encouraged. She loved. She sought God on my behalf! I am so thankful for God’s people!
The next day I was facing a 3 hour drive each way to go meet some more new friends and Young Living family! God always uses my time in the car to minister. I found the tears flowing. I found Him giving me the words I couldn’t find myself. I knew He saw me. There is nothing like knowing in a world of around 7.6 BILLION people ALL of whom God sees and loves, He chose to join me in my car and minister as only He could.
I am still working through all the stuff. I am still rebuilding my confidence. I am still going about my purpose. I am determined to let fear produce MORE faith. I am determined to fake it until I make it. I am determined to let my heart reshape my mind. I am determined to be better for it. I believe that God uses all things. I am determined that it the end even this will glorify God. I KNOW that He works all things together for good for those who love Him and are called according to HIS PURPOSE (Romans 8:28). AND I am believing and waiting with an expectancy for the day when it all makes sense, even if it’s on the other side of glory!
So if you can relate at all, know I am praying for you! I don’t need details-God is a God of details and He knows. I pray you know you are LOVED! You are cherished! You are highly sought after! You are worth dying for and someone did, JESUS. He came so that you could have life and have it more abundantly (John 10:10)
This song gave me words I couldn’t speak and spoke to me over and over! I pray it does the same for you! God gives us permission to feel ALL the feels, just don’t dwell there! Seek Him and let Jesus be a healing balm! Isaiah 61:1 NKJV
““The Spirit of the Lord God is upon Me,
Because the Lord has anointed Me
To preach good tidings to the poor;
He has sent Me to heal the brokenhearted,
To proclaim liberty to the captives,
And the opening of the prison to those who are bound”
It’s FINALLY Fall yall!! We’re halfway through October and I can FINALLY wear my comfy fall clothes that I look forward to ALL summer!
So here’s my FALL ESSENTIALS y’all 😍
SO there are a few (maybe, more) of my favorite things and fall essentials!! Want me info on any of them I listed, leave me a comment and I’ll hook you up! If Young Living interests you then click here to join our team and start your wellness journey!
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So it’s day 2 of semi-good days! It’s been 2 days of waking the kids up at 6:30 to be responsible for the TWO 3 month old puppies that joined our family of 8 over the weekend. It’s been 2 days of them cleaning up so the puppies don’t chew, sweeping and mopping floors twice a day because……..you guess it…….PUPPY PEE! They have KEPT their room clean ALL day! That one deserves some #PRAISEHANDS! It’s been 2 night of sticking to a bedtime routine. I know, I know 2 nights and routine probably don’t belong together in most people’s’ world, but 2 nights of the same thing (for the most part) is rocking MY world.
I NEEDED these last few days. I needed a glimpse of something good! I am doing Whole30 and on day 11 today! I have been hangry and not myself. I have been groggy and foggy. I am totally sure getting up with the hubs at 2am to make him breakfast and having a teething-nursing baby, and new puppies to clean up after and take out constantly has SO MUCH to do with it as well! Oh AND it was my birthday Sunday and my whole family quit Whole 30 but I didn’t, because who wants to start off a new year with failure? And I just happened to be super stubborn and immovable in almost everything so I refused to join them in carb heaven! It sure smelled good though!
Any who, this Whole30 thing for me is a RESET! I needed one. Ever feel stuck and stagnant? Like you’re circling the mountain? Every morning you wake up and say to yourself “today will be different! It just HAS to be” but your patience is shorter than the day before and you find yourself once again struggling? For me it’s yelling. I HATE it. It is what I dislike the most about myself. Oh, how I pray to be soft-spoken!
BUT in TRUE JESSICA LEDERER-ness I plan to tackle a LOT, to do this BIG….so food, finances, family, house ALL it is all getting a revamp! If you’ve ever done Whole30 you may understand, THIS THINGS IS LIKE A STINKING ROLLER COASTER RIDE and I wasn’t seeing any fruit. I have been even more horrible. My fuse shorter. People, use to love them all and now—-don’t like em. My lack of carbs and sugar and coffee as I knew it has seriously diminished my PC filter—I’m a little judgy. I am craving nasty fast food that I wouldn’t normally eat, like totally fixated! Sleepy all the time with burning eyes and that fogginess that just wouldn’t (won’t) lift! And seriously who knew I could look more bloated? I’ve had 6 kids!! I digress though….I needed these past few days to help me get over that hump and keep the end goal in mind.
SO what’s the end goal? INTENTIONALITY! Not a smaller size, or inches off. Not losing weight. It’s about being intentional about my life. This was a tangible way for me to take control and change something! It has an end date! 30 days. That’s all. It is manageable. I need some kind of a timeline to be successful! I have a group for accountability. I have had amazing people join me and I can’t quit while they are still going! (That may be my competitiveness) SO ANYONE WANNA DO THIS FOR YELLING! Seriously! Is there a yelling challenge!
As I said INTENTIONAL is my goal! I found I wasn’t doing many of these things and THESE are what has help the past couple days! I’m not sure self-sabotage is what happened, I just literally could not see or think through to the next step. SO here’s some of my what I’ve added more of! What a transformation.
SO all what helps you cope? What are your struggles? ANYONE WANNA DO SOME KIND OF YELLING CHALLENGE?? <——-YUP I was serious!
So let me start by first saying that I am NOT a medical professional, I don’t have a degree, I am NOT a replication of you so what works for me may not work for you, ALL the things affect ALL the things, and none of this is intended to treat, cure, or prevent ANYTHING. So I am in NO WAY an expert, I am not offering medical advice, I am offering my testimony and something to research for yourself! AND I am only speaking Young Living because that’s what I know! I trust them and I use them explicitly! I have been on one their farms, in their facilities, I’ve seen a lab, and planted lavender!
Now that that’s out of the way, let’s chat….
Do yo know what’s in your beauty products? Food? Personal care products? Environmentally around you? NO ONE can say yes to all! We make educated decisions and try to remove as much GARBAGE as we can but we will inevitable be exposed to toxins. Toxins have a negative effect on our bodies. They accumulate. They wreak havoc on EVERY body system. So we combat those negatives with intentional actions!
WHY is it so important? That’s how most of us begin life! OVER 200 TOXINS were found in the umbilical cord in a recent study! Go ahead GOOGLE, I’ll wait! And I know you downloaded the THINK DIRTY app from the last post, so go and put in the leading baby wash and wipes!
Add vaccines, food, environment, stress, medications and it’s paints a pretty scary picture. Ones like we see today in our population.
OK OK! So why share ALL that? Well y’all this is my WHY! My why is educating myself, my children, and all the people! I want my children to know better and do better. I want to do better for them. I want to save them from some of the heartbreak I have seen others suffer. And one way I had do this is to remove as many toxins as possible.
So back to hormones…..I share everything above because they ALL play a part in disrupting our hormones AND THAT can have detrimental affects! That means I am going to do my darnedest to support and maintain healthy hormones! So let’s chat about the things we have and use daily to stay above the wellness line!
A must for me is PROGESSENCE PLUS! It was formulated by a doctor who specializes in women’s hormone issues. Many that he saw had very low or NO progesterone when he tested them. This causes a myriad of issues that run rampant today!
Another MUST is ENDOFLEX! This is support for your endocrine system! I apply on my thyroid and adrenal and on my wrist if i get that afternoon sweet tooth! So what’s your endocrine system? Think metabolism, sex drive, sleep, stress, mood, reproduction, growth and development and more! SUPER important!
DRAGON TIME! I wonder if when this oil was named if the man had to sleep on the couch. This is for that time of the month when the potential for turning ‘dragonish’ is at an all time high, well maybe guaranteed!
A few more female supporting oils are Lady Sclareol, Sclaressence, Clary Sage, Ylang Ylang, Fennel (google fennel and milk supply too), Geraminum, CortiStop*, EndoGize, Estro*, PD 80/20, PowerGize, Thyromin, Prenolone. (*DO not use when pregnant along with Rehemogen and Comfortone)
My favorite is MISTER! It was orginally made to support prostate health and male energy! Hubby uses on his pelvic line and outer ankle. It smells so good! This definitely gets used by me too! ***So women can be low in progesterone, high in estrogen, and low in testosterone…so this one can help support females who may find themselves with the latter! So if you are finding the female supports aren’t helping much, try this one!
SHUTRAN!! If this oil had a tagline it would be “HELLO ladies!” It is a favorite of so so so many that there is a whole personal care line! Beard oil, soap, body wash!!! I am hoping for a deodorant in the near future with this manly yumminess!
When you think IDAHO BLUE SPRUCE, think testosterone! Google it!
Other great products for male hormone support are Prostate Health, Copiaiba, EndoGize.
Questions? Well google young living and _______! WHY! WHY? WHY do you keep telling me to Google? Well I want to empower you with your own health! I want you vested in your own wellness! I do however want to help and point in you a general direction!
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